I know that Covid-19 is taking up a lot of our positive energy away, it is all that is being spoken about on the radio, news & everywhere else you turn.
How about we focus our energy on identifying the simple things to help with a happy, healthy mindset. Everyone is on their own journey and the stressful situations that are forthcoming may be the struggle of having had to postpone your wedding, having a difficult time with your own thoughts & emotions, hoping to connect with your partner in a new way or simply looking for a way to better your mindset.
You may be facing an extremely stressful time, you have every right to be unhappy but how long you to feel like this can be impacted up to you.
Here are some tips to help manage the stressful situations that are completely out of our control.
This is one of my favourites, trying to find the positive in every situation. Try and journal down everything that you are grateful for during this time. It could be as simple as listing 1-3 things a day that you appreciate. An example may be that you don't have to commute every day to work, get to stay warm and comfortable working in your own home, or spending more time with your partner and family.
be present in the moment
Being present in the moment is so important. If you focus on the good energy that is around you won't get caught up in the unnecessary drama life likes to display sometimes. If you do end up focusing on the negative energy around you try and remove yourself from the situation by going to find somewhere quiet to sit down for a moment.
Take a few deep breaths in & when you exhale think about letting that negative tension go.
Listen to the sounds around you whether it be the ocean or the birds & take it all in to become more relaxed.
Steer clear from news
The news can be quite such a draining source of information and especially lately everything seems so down in the dumps and negative. There are far more healthy ways to find out important information. The Australian Governments website gives clear instructions of what you can and can't do during these uncertain time. The World Health Organisation also gives you real life facts & statistics without all the negative vibes and dramatisation. Better still, you can read this at your own leisure.
Sometimes you may want to watch the news to find out what is going on but maybe limit your time. Internalising the problems of the world doesn't help anyone.
reset to the positives
Try to focus your energy on the positives. Think about 1 thing daily that is positive might help shift your mindset into the thought that things aren't so bad after all.
Think to yourself is this behaviour or thought process helping me or harming me? We are so lucky that we can either decide to revisit the negative emotions or move forward onto the positives and start fresh.
focus on generosity
One of the best ways to change your mindset is helping others. Helping others is clinically proven to help you as well. Think of those who are less fortunate than you. Think about a way you can help someone. Itdoesn't have to be anything huge, how about even saying hello to someone you walk past and asking them if they are okay? Picking up the phone to ring your friend to check in and perhaps see if they need help with anything. Especially now during this time its so important to check in every now and then with people to make sure they aren't lonely, depressed or feeling the pressure financially.
limit time on social media
Ah the good old social media trap, this is a great topic to address. Society these days is constantly changing & creating far more problems than is necessary. Scrolling through your social media feed comparing your life to the picture perfect version others share is unhealthy and unrealistic. You don't need to be like anyone else. You are special and unique on your own. Materialistic things aren't going to make you any better and money doesn't make you cool. Your friends should like you for you & that is all that matters. By limiting your time on social media you limit the exposure to making yourself feel unhappy by comparing yourself to others. Alternatively, its super simple to 'unfollow' people or buisnesses that make you think negatively about yourself. This is just a small step that can be taken to change your mindset for the better.
Creating a structure is a great way for staying on track. Without structure the brain will decide what it wants to do in that present moment and I know myself that the majority of the time it might be sweet nothing at all! Breaking the day into 3 parts is my way of daily commitment- Morning, afternoon & evening. For example in the morning before you go to work or start your day at home- Move your body, meditate & shower to prepare yourself for the day.
Afternoon goals- Learn something new, listen to a podcast or read a book.
Evening goals- Write some things in your journal, some yoga & turn your phone off by 9pm.
keep a journal
We touched on journalling when we spoke about Gratitude. Writing things that down that you are greatful for is a briliant way to keep that positivity at the front of your mind. However, journaling is a great way to clear the mind, and pruging all the feelings you might have that are bringing you down.
This is extremely important for your own growth, once you recognise your own happiness and things you appreciate, the more you will appreciate other peoples growth & happiness.
If you are struggling with finding the positives, it may help to speak with someone. Below is a list of contacts that are there to help:
Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Suicide Line: 1300 65 12 51