Hello lovely people, today I wanted to talk about the importance of the maid of honor & also the responsibilities that come along with it.
When selecting your maid of honor it should be someone you trust immensely, also someone who knows you extremely well & someone who can bring you back down to earth if you're having a moment. They are going to be your right hand girl when those wedding responsibilities get too much for you to handle for whatever reason.
Being selected as the maid of honor is such an exciting moment, the bride willing to put full faith in you for all your help behind the scenes. Your maid of honor needs to be a good worker, be able to accept challenges head on, the mood booster, emotional baggage handler and most of all the most a big ball of good energy. Sounds complicated right!?
Although this can seem like quite the challenging task I will talk you through a few important steps to put your mind at ease.
BEFORE THE WEDDING.
1. HELP OUT WITH THE PLANNING
So wedding planning can be quite the emotional roller coaster, sometimes even the slightest of arrangements can have the bride in tears from being too overwhelmed. This is where you come in! The most important thing is to listen to the bride. See her vision, understand it & then make it come to life.
Write a rough list of the brides ideas, what she wants, where & who. Encourage her to get on pinterest and start mood boarding EVERY little detail.
Some of the tasks you will need to help with are
2. LEAD THE BRIDES TRIBE
Leading the brides tribe is super helpful to the bride to make it one less thing she has to do.
Make sure all bridesmaids know what they have to in the lead up and also on the day. Make sure they have their dresses, if they need any alterations, shoes, appropriate accessories, a bouquet & also ask their help in the planning of the bridal shower.
3. HOST THE BRIDAL SHOWER
Here comes the fun part!! This means the wedding is super close. You need to take the lead in the bridal shower plans.
This is a great time to start asking the bridesmaids plus the brides friends what you think might be a good idea for the day. You need to figure out what sort of budget is appropriate for the guests. Whether you do a day time bridal shower then a hens night it all needs to be organized to suit everyone that is involved.
Your task is to handle invites, keep track if guests are paying per head, whether they RSVP'D and also if there is a dress code.
The bride will probably change her mind a 100 times with what she wants to do, try incorporate as much as you can for a fun filled day with everyone.
4. BE THERE FOR THE BRIDE EMOTIONALLY & MAKE HER LAUGH!
The bride should always feel super comfortable talking to you about anything that is bugging her.
You can lend a helping hand and an open ear. The best thing you can do is honestly support her with the whole process. The more you help to organize the less stressed she will be.
If you are organized things rarely go wrong other than the slight mishap that can be easily fixed.
In my opinion laughter is the best medicine for any stressful situation, laugh it off then move forward with the rest of the to do list.
ON THE WEDDING DAY.
1. MAKE SURE THERE IS PLENTY OF FOOD AND WINE ON HAND
This is normally something that always gets forgotten! Eating in the lead up to the ceremony. As the maid of honor make sure there is plenty of water, obviously wine & food. Try to eat a normal breakfast and go about your normal routine treating it like a normal day, this should keep the nerves at bay. Have plenty of snacks around. Remember it is a big day of drinking so you need to stay hydrated and eat some food. Nobody likes a messy bridal party haha!
2. DO ANY LAST MINUTE SET UPS AT THE VENUE
If you need to make a mad dash to the venue in the morning make sure you get up early, you can do this before hair and makeup if you are organized. Most venues won't allow you access until 9am on the day. Make sure you have everything ready that you need to be done eg champagne flutes, wedding favours, table decorations, wishing well, seating cards and candles. Just remember time is precious on the wedding day.
For piece of mind you can overlook the run sheet to make sure everything goes to the plan the venue has set out.
3. COORDINATE BRIDESMAIDS
I'm sure by the wedding day the bridesmaids will know what they are doing, just make sure they get to rehearsal on time and have everything they need for the day. If the bridesmaids plan on sipping bubbly with the bride whilst getting dresses make sure you are on drunk patrol, everyone should enjoy the moment but not over indulge.
4. HELP THE BRIDE
Usually the night before the bridesmaids will stay with the bride. In the morning you will assist the bride in getting ready for the ceremony. Whether the bride wants you to help her get dressed you can assist in doing that.
Make sure you have a bag with an emergency kit that has Panadol, bandaids, safety pins, tissues, makeup brushes & anything else you think is crucial for any mishaps. During the ceremony the maid of honor will hold the brides bouquet.
The maid of honor can also be asked to be a witness for the certificate of marriage.
For the ceremony make sure the bride eats something & drinks some water. It can be extremely overwhelming with so many loved ones and friends that she will get caught up in the moment and not eat! Nek minute drunk as a skunk!
LASTLY HAVE THE BEST FUN EVER!