Yes weddings are doused in traditions & there used to be a lengthy list of general etiquette to follow but times & traditions are changing rapidly to fit in with our more relaxed way of life.
Here are some of the most notable differences between modern & traditional wedding etiquette;
who pays for the wedding bill?
Traditionally the brides family would pay for the wedding & the grooms family would pay for the honeymoon but of course times have changed & these days its more common for the couple & their families to split costs.
There is no right or wrong way to go about it. For a bit more insight, in 2019 surveys concluded that 68% of couples reported they were taking care of their own finances.
lets talk wedding party
Traditionally grooms would choose their closest male friends or family members to be groomsmen & brides would do the same.
These days however you can do as you please, its becoming far more common for the bride & groom to choose the opposite sex to be apart of their wedding party & again its completely up to the individuals.
These days its all about picking the people who mean the most to you & wanting them to stand beside you on your special day regardless of gender.
The way in which guests will rsvp
9 times out of 10 I'm sure you will be chasing up your friends to RSVP or they will leave it to the absolute last minute. Another classic is when you send out save the dates & your friends don't save the date. Expect tobe chasing the people that 'assume' you know they are coming. The only difference in the modern etiquette for RSVPing is the huge amount of social forums available to us to communicate with.
Simply just follow the instructions on the invite, the couple would have decided on the appropriate method of contact so just follow the prompts, whether that be sending the RSVP card back, emailing or a simple text.
wedding gifts/wishing wells
This can sometimes be a bit of a touchy subject to some families. Traditionally gifts were always physical presents, usually aimed at helping the newlyweds set up a home or personal sentimental gifts. Cash was an absolute no-no & asking for it was frowned upon. Today so many couples are already living together before they get married & have probably set up everything in their home so the traditional gifts of crockery, cutlery, and household items are unnecessary. The couples now are more so wanting cash that can be put towards something they truly need or want like their honeymoon or even a house deposit. Wishing wells are now a very popular thing & a simple note on wedding invitation to say presents are welcome but if you can't decide on a gift you can simply contribute to our wishing well. You will find that some guests to your wedding won't agree with cash gifts as they are from a different era & would like to physically give you a present. There should be no set value of what each individual would like to give to the couple even if they don't give you a present at the end of the day their presence should be enough!
These days social media is huge & this can be quite the controversial conversation. What do you do about guests taking photos of the happiest day of your life then sharing it to social media before you get to? Remember it is their special day to share with the world, guests shouldn't be doing that before you. You can kindly tell everyone once the ceremony kicks off to not use your phone to take photos simply enjoy every moment & leave the photos up to the photographers. You want all your guests to be present in the moment with you not watching it all behind a phone. It's not about what you can post on social media, its about supporting the couple and enjoying through every moment!
Traditionally it was forbidden to wear black to a wedding or even red & you definitely couldn't wear white that's a huge no-no,
but being a wedding you would definitely over dress for the occasion.
Nowadays fashion has changed vastly around the globe & some things are a lot less formal but it all comes down to the dress code. One rule that has definitely not changed in about wearing white, off shades of white or cream. It's best to leave that all up to the bride!
dont forget your wedding hashtag
It's all about being trendy these days & having Instagram is definitely a trend, so lets talk hashtags. If you spoke about a hashtag years back people would have looked at you funny.
A wedding hashtag allows you to easily find the photos your wedding guests have shared of your wedding day on social media. The couple will come up with a hashtag then when you post a photo to instagram you simply # & write the couples hashtag.